Family Stories (Books list)

Family bonding can be facilitated by the use of family stories. The stories give family members a sense of cultural identity. Positive cultural legalities such as hard work and cohesiveness are emphasized through such stories. Family traditions are the first traditions that will be inflicted on a person. They are the first beliefs a person can have because they are the first things one can learn. One of the disadvantages of a keen cultural interaction is that there may be negative cultural legalities such as those that describes an individual as being inferior or unattractive.

Family narratives not only create a sense of cohesiveness, but also provides an opportunity for family members to come together and challenge or discuss norms that had been existing before they were already in existence. In general, a person’s first belief will be those that are shared by the family members. Especially, as a result of the amount of time that will be spent with them.

Reactions of individuals to the cultural legalities that they are excluded to may vary from one person to the other. In some individual, it shapes their identity while some, it doesn’t. In this manner, family narratives play a significant role. As one grows, family members such as parents hold a lot of authority and respect in a person’s life. As an individual continues to meet more people and pick up on their beliefs, some loyalty to family beliefs may also be expected of them and so as much as they define themselves, they will be limited regarding how much they can divert from family beliefs. Approval from parents or other influential family members will very much be required.

The list of books

Hills Like White Elephants, by Hemingway

In this book, the American coerces the girl to get an operation that she had not thought of having an interaction. She may have been quite as she was, but her beliefs were substantially changed by the American who required for someone else to be pleased. This goes to show how there are other individuals who will always impose what they believe in these individuals

Every Day uses by Walker

In this book, it is clear that Mama disapproves of the fact that Dee decided to name herself and prefers if she kept her original name and beliefs. Another aspect that is evident from this book is that Dee found her way of determining her identity by picking which things she wanted for her family and those she did not want. The fact that she changed her name was because she did not want to identify with people who tortured them. In a way it was also some allegiance to her family; just that since the idea did not come from her mother it seems rather abrupt.

The fact that she also wanted to marry someone whose name sounded like he was a Muslim was also a problem for Mama. This was probably attributed to the fact that she knew such a marriage would lead Dee change even more from the person she had known when she was younger. Parents want their children to remain the way they had guided them into being. This is why diverging from the beliefs they taught one as a child is met with some criticism.

Mid-Term Break by Heaney

The poem in this books addresses the loss of a younger sibling by a young school boy. He had not seen his father cry before this and the extended family had come to show support by picking him from school and being around the family. The men shake his hands as a sign of him passing onto manhood following this tragedy. In this way, his family has contributed to his identity. The tragedy has caused pain that leads to him to being identified as a man because of having to brave the pain.

Concerning these books, it is clear that regulations from narratives shared in families ensure the meanings are conserved and that future generations do not misinterpret the cues given in the tales. In this way, cultural beliefs would be maintained.  Much as history also defines individuals, culture forms an integral part of a person’s beliefs. From these readings and general life experiences it is apparent that there are so many ways that a family can contribute to someone’s identity.

Individuals usually modify aspects from the narratives told do that it can fit into their current beliefs. In this way, the stories can develop new meaning for them. In this way, stories serve to reinforce culture. In the ‘Midterm Break’ by Heaney, the main character gets the identity of being a man from the extended family following the passing of his younger brother. From the book ‘Everyday use’ by Walker, the main character’s chosen identity is inhibited by her mother because the latter wants Dee to remain the same. Parents are hesitant to welcome change in their children when it constitutes diverging from the way she had been raised. This is because such change is unfamiliar with parents and therefore uncharted grounds with them. That being the case, they would not recommend something they have not done themselves as they are not sure how the child can end up being.

As a result, the family can always support one’s identity if it is something they can identify with so that they too may be able to be there for the child when they need something.

In conclusion, as much as the family plays such a fundamental role in shaping an individual’s beliefs, there are those beliefs that will be strongly reinforced by the experiences that they have in their lives. In life there is a broad selection of ideas; experiences may shape some; some by circumstances, others from religion, whereas the rest, including choice of worship will come from family.

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